Being a pregnant mommy & freaking out!

One of the most heart warming scenes I have witnessed is that of my son talking to my unborn child a.k.a my tummy. Again, it brings back to mind the marvels of being a child, the beautiful mind that is of a child - a mind that knows no ego no hatred and does not ever have to get even. It only makes things happen for itself and swims in the glory of the love around it.

Shiv (my sonny) hurt his eyes when i poked it by mistake. A simple stupid mistake on my part resulted in him crying for 3 hours straight and a visit to the doctor. The painful outcome for him (even more than the sore eye) was the eye drops prescribed to him. For me it was every time he cried in pain!

I was putting him down for his afternoon nap when he did the sweetest most magical thing. He lifted my tee and while staring at my tummy he said 'baby didi hurt came off for Rambo' and pointed at his sore eye; followed by crying - him and me both! After a while, once the pain n subsided he says 'pain GOOOONE , baby didi pusssh pain in balcony put it in timeout'. Its hard to put in words what i felt at that time!

My mom says the way Shiv talks to his toys he makes them come alive. Its true how a child puts life into everything it touches. A teddy has a name, a car has a color, a doll has a hairstyle and its favorite dress and a bus has its own song.  In Shiv's language, every time I am around my son, 'magic happens'. I pray to God this magic never ceases and I don't ever have to come out of this bubble called mommyhood!

I read an post on FB recently about a dog owner that left his dog on the roads of Delhi in the middle of the winters. The family was moving to UK and did not know what else to do. I wish I could personally whack the daylights out of them in the hopes of putting some sense into their head!!

Its news like this that I find myself unable to come out of. I just cant stop thinking about it!! It makes me wonder if its really possible for people to be so mean, so second-rate and unrelenting about anyone that makes them the center of their universe?? How can one be a dog parent and not understand how incredibly lucky they are to be loved the way they are?? Would they leave their child ont he roads because they cant handle them?

This and the parenting methods of some people makes me wish there was an certification in place for being one. One couple, parents of a 7month old come home after an evening of drinks and are so sleepy that they fail to notice their baby fall out of bed during the night, hurt her head and lose her eye-sight. It does not get more pitiful than this.

I do not proclaim to be the best dog/human parent but I can look anyone in the eye when I say I know the value of a child, human or not! I may not be a perfect parent but i value my children enough to know that they are MY responsibulity and its in my hands to turn my life into bliss or hell in the process of bringing them up. I choose the former and it beaks my heart when it has to happen any other way!

A lot of aspiring pet owners focus on the positive aspects of dog ownership, such as constant company, playing fun games, and having a pet as security for their homes. I would like to say this to anyone who wishes to adopt a pet, PLEASE READ THIS before your make a decision:

• Is everyone in the house in agreement with your decision?
• Can you afford to provide adequate care to the pet before bringing it home? Pets require regular examinations by vets and they need a detailed treatment plan in the event of sickness. make sure that you are fully prepared for such eventualities before you adopt a pet.
• Commitment is a major aspect of being a responsible pet parent. It may mean setting aside things you want to do so as to provide a good life and loving home for your pet.
• Are re you willing train, groom, exercise, feed, and provide companionship?

There is NO difference at all betwen raising a child and raising a pet. Unless you can love them equally do not adopt. You have your life, your job and your family - your pet has only YOU.  He needs your love and care like a fussy toddler vying for attention. He will bark for attention/love/care of you fail to give it to him (and he deserves much more) - Remember he cant speak.

If one dos not have the time, patience and love that a pet or a child requires, please DO NOT spoil their life by bringing  them home. They say that Dogs  are angels that God sent with a note saying 'don't judge, just Love', they ate the note but keep trying to deliver the message! Love them please, they deserve it!!

Do you recognize an angel when you see one? 

If silence is worth a million words, then animals are proof that it is indeed true. Its in the air, their unswerving  love and acceptance of their human parents. No expectations, no ego, no knowledge of whats right and wrong for them - just pure love, its almost divine! In the animal's mind, he/she loves you and that's all that matters. Can we say the same for the supreme human beings we are supposed to be, with that extra sense?

Rocky came into my arms a mere 35 days old and has made me aware of what real LOVE is.  A naughty boy that he is - in times of distress, when I have been hurt or angry - his face on my lap always told me mamma don't worry. He irks me too when he tugs at my feet with a ball in his mouth at the end of a tiring day when all I want to do is rest. But he is such a doll, he gets it and lays down himself.

He is in Pune with his dad now and am in Chennai and I miss him terribly. I miss his vibrant presence, his puppy doggie expressions and his barks for attention. Sometimes i just miss talking to him.Sometimes i miss watching him sleep peacefully while i type away at my laptop.. At other times, I miss watching his face light up at the thought of getting a treat. Its never easy being away from someone you Love.

A hug from you is worth a million unspoken words - Miss you Rocky and cant wait to get to Pune and see you at the door, ball in your mouth wag in your tail - Missing you never gets easier..LOVE you my puppy baby!!!

Moments we live by and for....

Ever have an insanely emotional moment - the ones we assume happen only in mushy movies?; Like watching your baby sound asleep, when you shout at your dog and he still curls up on your lap or when your husband is late for work and runs across the hall for a quick peck on your pregnant  tummy?

In the midst of dodging traffic on the way to work, living up to deadlines and wondering what to make for dinner, we make important decisions. Some of these are simple choices that have the potential to make our lives miserable or fulfilling, depending on how we see it.

I have a 2 yr old son and a baby on the way. I work a full time job which means my son has to go to day care and spends a mere 3 hours at home with me. Do I quit so I can spend more time with him and take better care of him or do I work so I can build a secure future for him? Do I go to mom's so I have less to do at this time or do I stay back as long as possible so my husband does not have to be alone? I dont know!

When my mind is battling all this in the background, my son tugs at my feet and says mamma 'carrayuu' (carry me) and hugs me tight when i do. He even obliges a kiss when I ask for it. Its moments like these that we live by. Every time I sit down with Shiv, Rocky sits on my feet, his back resting on my leg so I caress his head. At this point, nothing matters. I dont care how tired I am or how irritating it is to divide your attention evenly between your dog and your son without hurting either.

There are a million such moments everyday! We are just too tired or stressed out to see them, cliched but true. It pays nothing to feel sorry for yourself or to live in denial. Take a walk, love your family and make evry small kiss, hug and smile count - these are blessings taht only lucky people come by to appreciate.

Am gonna go kiss my sleeping son now, maybe hubby will follow! :D

Stuck on you...

Ever had someone stick to your mind? The one person you cannot forget and always forgive? If I guess right, this person would also be the one that hurt you bad. Someone come to mind? :)

Science and scriptures (any non-science - so many these days) fascinate and answer questions, some of which are beyond the conjuring capacity of  our minds. But there are some things that  happen because they do and there is no psychological or scientific logic to it. Why a mother will kill for her child  without a moment's hesitation while some animals eat their young; how a girl leaves her house of many long years in love with a man she met a year or two ago and calls it her own, how a child automatically lips 'mamma' when he needs something and how we feel incapacitated by our feelings for some people no matter how horrid they really are. 

What about Love? Is it just a whole lot of hormones dong their job? A lover's mind is the ultimate paradox!

No matter what you do or say

I have always been this way

Not your unkempt life 

Nor your empty promises

Have ever had my mind in sway

We just cant seem to get over some people. Our lives go on as usual, husband kid job and the works. It does not imply that we spend hours thinking about them or device plans to stalk them or get them back.But when they call, email or text us, that adrenaline shot is inevitable. We hate them and love them at the same time and will still agree to go out and meet them. Whatever happened to logic, self-esteem and ego, I wish I knew.Some may argue a case of sour grapes but please, I have had better and I aint calling it sour either.

I guess we just let laying dogs be and throw them a bite from time to time! :)